God’s Design and Plan is NOT a Dead or Dying Marriage

Marriage is the foundational human relationship designed and given by God to mankind in the Garden of Eden.     It is the most powerful, life changing gift He gave us, and I have come to believe that among the odious things man does before God are: failing to make our marriage what He intends, and giving into a dead or dying marriage.    

Marriage is designed by God to thrive, change us, produce godly character in both of us, and be a most powerful testimony of His love – even as Ephesians 5:32 tells us that: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”

What that says to me is that our marriage should become a display case for the Kingdom, and because that is God’s plan for man, Satan will throw everything he can at our marriage to make us lousy display cases for God. That the church is filled with weak and poor display cases says much about Satan’s power today.  Sadly there are too few still imperfect yet wonderful displays of biblical marriage. But those few SHINE – because God’s power trumps Satan’s – every time.

That said, every marriage takes work, sometimes hard work, and churches and marriage ministries are the “heels dug-in, ground-holders for biblical marriage”, and they work tirelessly to bring those tools for Christ-following couples that will remind them of His plan and purpose for their marriage.

Like others around the country who are serving in marriage ministries, we are aware that the simple tool called “date night” can be most powerful to bring couples back into alignment with each other – and with God. I know you’ve heard it from me before – the most powerful dates are those where the basic guideline is to have fun, and not talk about kids, issues, finances, and work.  

Date Night Comedy Tour is one such effort to help provide that fun evening of reconnection in our lives.     This event has been hosted all over the country for the last half decade and countless marriages have regained purpose and focus to make their marriage come alive before God, each other, family and friends, becoming healthier Kingdom display cases.     Our desire is to stay joined with this movement to restore biblical marriage in America, and see SBC as a “Marriage Church” in our state.

Date Night Comedy Tour is coming to Scottsdale Bible Church on Friday, February 12. It’s been timed to coincide with Valentine’s Day and another national event (National Marriage Week) with the same purpose of raising the bar for Marriage in America.

Get the date night habit in your marriage – whether you fly to Paris, Rome or New York, or sit on the sofa in your own home and find the fun things that bring you together again.     (We’ll help with the latter, as we post weekly “date night discussion questions” on SBC’s Facebook/Marriage page –     https://www.facebook.com/ScottsdaleBibleMarriage/.) And we’ll continue to provide Date Night events, and Grow Your Marriage (GYM) studies to sharpen your walk

This month, I hope you will join the fun on the 12^th, as we’re bringing a whole team from around the country for an energetic night of laughter and fun together. Many couples have found these nights a kick-start for re-connection and a building block to bring life back to their marriage.   Whether your marriage is frozen or on fire, Date Night Comedy Tour can be a significant time to give glory to the King of Kings as we see hundreds of couples truly enjoying one another.